If your partner says yes just to please you, or is unsure, or not ready – then you don’t have consent.
If your partner ever says no during sex or asks you to stop, you must stop immediately. Saying no should never be treated as a game or as a signal that someone is “playing hard to get.” However, it might be that they feel they can’t say no. Other things that might mean they’re not into it include reluctance to take part, freezing up during sex, crying or being silent.
Certain situations make it impossible for a person to legally give consent. These situations usually means a person is not mentally or physically able to choose whether to have sex or not. For example, if someone is drunk or high on drugs, then that person cannot give consent.
Not having consent can result in serious consequences including prosecution and even going to jail. For more information visit our page on sex and the law.